My son came out as trans and while my wife and I are both trying to be supportive, I can see that we're grieving completely different things — she's mourning the daughter she thought she had and I'm terrified I never really knew my kid at all.
More people experience this than they realize.
A child's coming out can reveal how differently parents understand identity and loss, requiring them to navigate grief while learning to love in new ways.
“Where Are You with The parent's inner life — what children bring up?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.