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Scenario

When parents disagree about boundaries with struggling adult children

My spouse and I disagree completely about how much to help our adult son who keeps making financial mistakes and asking us for money. I want to set firm boundaries and my spouse keeps giving in because they can't stand to see him struggle, and it's creating tension in our marriage on top of the stress about our kid.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are trying to love their child well while protecting their own relationship, but they have different definitions of help and harm.

Your guide for this
Rabia
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Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Belonging vs. fitting in — the distinction that matters?”

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