My spouse and I disagree completely about how much to help our adult son who keeps making financial mistakes and asking us for money. I want to set firm boundaries and my spouse keeps giving in because they can't stand to see him struggle, and it's creating tension in our marriage on top of the stress about our kid.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are trying to love their child well while protecting their own relationship, but they have different definitions of help and harm.
“Where Are You with Belonging vs. fitting in — the distinction that matters?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.