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When parents have conflicting styles and teenagers exploit the divide

My teenage daughter and I have been butting heads constantly and my partner thinks I'm being too controlling while I think they're being too permissive. We've never really figured out how to parent together and now our different styles are creating this dynamic where our daughter plays us against each other.

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Two adults who love the same child have never aligned on how to guide her, and the child has learned to navigate the inconsistency in ways that undermine both relationships.

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