LibraryScenariosWhen parent-teen conflicts become stuck patterns
Scenario

When parent-teen conflicts become stuck patterns

My teenage daughter and I keep having the same fight about her phone and screen time and we're both so tired of it but neither of us knows how to stop. She thinks I don't trust her and I think she doesn't understand the real world yet and we're both probably right.

Rabia
Online
The coach is replying

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are trapped in a dynamic where both of their truths are valid but incompatible, and the fighting has become more important than the original issue.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Confucian filial piety — examined?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.