My two closest friends can't stand each other and it's been putting me in the middle for months - they both vent to me about the other one and expect me to take sides. I love them both but I'm starting to resent having to manage their conflict and I don't know how to get out of this triangle without losing one of them.
More people experience this than they realize.
Being cast as the emotional referee in someone else's conflict is a form of intimacy that ultimately serves no one and corrupts all the relationships involved.
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