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Scenario

When couples fight about money but it's really about fear

My wife and I keep having the same fight about money—I want to save more, she wants to enjoy what we have now—and it's not really about the money anymore, it's about the fact that we're both scared about different things and instead of talking about the fear we just argue about the budget spreadsheet. Last night she said maybe we just see the world too differently and that scared me more than any of our debt ever could.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are using practical disagreements to avoid confronting the deeper vulnerabilities that actually need attention.

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