Our community group started a scholarship in memory of our friend who died in a car accident, but the criteria we chose keep excluding the kinds of kids he actually cared about helping. We're all so focused on making it respectable that we're betraying what he stood for, but nobody wants to admit we got it wrong.
More people experience this than they realize.
Institutional memorials can sanitize and betray the very spirit they claim to honor when the need for respectability trumps authentic representation.
“Where Are You with What you take with you — the inner legacy that death carries away?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.