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Scenario

When families maintain silence around a member's addiction or crisis

Our family group chat has become this place where we all perform being okay and share updates but nobody talks about the fact that Mom's drinking has gotten worse since retirement. We all see it when we visit but somehow we've created this collective silence around it and I think we're all waiting for someone else to bring it up first.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A family system has organized itself around avoiding a painful truth that everyone can see, creating shared complicity in denial.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Legacy and ego — when legacy-building becomes narcissism?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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