Our family has this thing where my sister always hosts holidays and does everything and the rest of us just show up, but she's been making comments about being tired and overwhelmed and when I offered to help she got defensive. I think we've created a dynamic that nobody actually wants but we don't know how to change it without hurting feelings.
More people experience this than they realize.
Sometimes the ways we take care of each other become prisons that no one knows how to escape.
“Where Are You with Buddhist merit and the ripple of good action?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.