Our friend group has this ongoing thing where Sarah always cancels last minute and we all complain about it to each other but nobody ever says anything to her directly. It's been going on for two years and now half of us just don't invite her anymore, but we all feel terrible about it.
More people experience this than they realize.
A group has developed a shadow system of exclusion rather than having one difficult conversation, and everyone knows it's wrong but no one knows how to fix it.
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