Our parenting group keeps talking about self-care and boundaries but when I try to implement what they suggest, I feel guilty in ways that remind me of my mother's martyrdom, and I can't tell if I'm being selfish or finally being healthy.
More people experience this than they realize.
A parent is caught between contemporary parenting wisdom and deeply ingrained patterns learned from their own mother, unable to distinguish self-care from selfishness.
“Where Are You with The parent's inner life — what children bring up?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.