Our parenting group keeps talking about self-care and boundaries but when I try to implement what they suggest, I feel guilty in ways that remind me of my mother's martyrdom, and I can't tell if I'm being selfish or finally being healthy.
More people experience this than they realize.
A parent is caught between contemporary parenting wisdom and deeply ingrained patterns learned from their own mother, unable to distinguish self-care from selfishness.
“Where Are You with The parent's inner life — what children bring up?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.