Periagoge
Scenario

How anonymous kindness can backfire

I anonymously paid my elderly neighbor's overdue electric bill last month and she spent two weeks trying to figure out who did it, and now I realize my good deed might have made her feel more helpless.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Well-intentioned actions can undermine dignity when they don't account for how the recipient experiences receiving help.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Buddhist merit and the ripple of good action?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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