I flinch every time my 4-year-old raises his voice even in normal play and I can see him noticing my reaction and starting to tiptoe around me.
More people experience this than they realize.
A parent's hypervigilance to loud sounds is inadvertently training their child to minimize their natural emotional expression.
“Where Are You with Trauma-informed parenting?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.