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Scenario

When your teenager lies about their ethnic background to fit in

I found out my 16-year-old has been telling her friends at school that her dad is Italian instead of Pakistani and I don't know whether to confront her or pretend I don't know.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A parent discovers their child's deep shame about their heritage and must navigate between protection and truth.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parenting across cultures — what changes and stays?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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