Periagoge
Scenario

When parental help becomes identity protection

I gave my son money for rent again last month even though he's thirty-five and has a job, and I tell myself it's love but I think I'm actually afraid of what kind of mother I'd be if I let him struggle.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Continuing to rescue adult children can reveal more about the parent's need to feel useful and loving than about the child's actual needs.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Buddhist merit and the ripple of good action?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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