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When your chosen mother becomes your parenting critic

I grew up with my aunt as my mother figure and now she is criticizing how I raise my own children and it hurts more than if my biological mother said it.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The deepest wounds come from those whose approval we most desperately seek, especially when roles and relationships transcend biology.

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