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When punishment damages the relationship you're trying to protect

I grounded my sixteen year old for three weeks after finding vape pens in his backpack and now he barely speaks to me and I wonder if I went too far but I also cannot let this slide.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A parent discovers that rigid enforcement of consequences can paradoxically undermine the very connection needed to guide their child.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Punishment consequences and natural boundaries?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.