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Why joining activities doesn't automatically create meaningful connections

I joined a book club and a hiking group and yoga classes but everyone is polite and surface-level and I leave feeling more lonely than when I arrived.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Shared activities create proximity but not necessarily vulnerability, and without vulnerability there is no real friendship.

Ideas that help explain it
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