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How Early Attachment Shapes Adult Partner Selection

I keep choosing partners who are emotionally unavailable just like my father was and I don't know how to be attracted to someone who is actually present.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The familiar dysfunction of early caregiving relationships can feel like love, making healthy connections feel foreign or threatening.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Generational trauma — identifying and interrupting?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.