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When trying to recreate a loved one's traditions feels inadequate

I keep my grandmother's recipes but every time I make her cookies they taste wrong and I feel like I'm failing to keep her alive properly.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The impossibility of perfect replication reveals the unbridgeable gap between memory and presence.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

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If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.