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When Helping Becomes Hurting in Adult Relationships

I keep trying to fix my adult son's problems and he keeps pushing me away and we are both miserable.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The impulse to rescue loved ones from difficulty can prevent them from developing their own capacity while exhausting the rescuer.

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