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When accommodation becomes avoidance

I let my thirteen-year-old stay home from school when she said kids were being mean but now she wants to stay home every time something is difficult.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Compassionate responses to genuine distress can inadvertently teach children to escape rather than cope with life's inevitable challenges.

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