I made my kids practice instruments and sports and languages every day after school and now they're successful adults but none of them call me unless they have to and I don't understand what I did wrong.
More people experience this than they realize.
You provided everything except the experience of being loved for who they were rather than what they could become.
“Where Are You with Tiger parenting — East Asian model examined?”
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