I never made my kids clean their rooms because I wanted them to develop their own standards, but now my 16-year-old's room smells like garbage and I'm embarrassed to have people over.
More people experience this than they realize.
Children often need external structure to develop internal organization and self-respect.
“Where Are You with Permissive parenting and its outcomes?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.