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When following expert advice makes your children seem unhappier

I read all the research about praise damaging intrinsic motivation so I stopped saying 'good job' to my kids, but now they seem sad and unsure of themselves and I don't know what I'm doing anymore.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Well-intentioned application of parenting research can disconnect parents from intuitive responses that children actually need.

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