I spent my daughter's entire childhood telling her she needed to be tougher and now she's in therapy learning how to cry and I wonder if I broke something that was supposed to stay soft.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your efforts to strengthen your child may have inadvertently taught them that their natural emotional responses are weaknesses to be overcome.
“Where Are You with Tiger parenting — East Asian model examined?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.