I was raised in a chaotic household and I've created such rigid structure for my kids that my 12-year-old son asks permission to use the bathroom and I realize I've gone too far the other direction.
More people experience this than they realize.
A parent's well-intentioned creation of predictability has become excessive control that inhibits their child's sense of agency and spontaneity.
“Where Are You with Trauma-informed parenting?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.