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When punishment comes before understanding in parenting

My 16-year-old came home an hour past curfew last night and I immediately took away his phone for a month, but now I'm wondering if I should have asked what happened first.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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The impulse to control through consequences can eclipse the deeper work of connection and guidance.

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