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When one child succeeds and the other struggles

My 17-year-old got into Harvard but my 14-year-old is barely passing eighth grade and I can feel myself loving them differently and I hate myself for it.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A parent discovers that unconditional love feels conditional when faced with children whose achievements reflect differently on their parenting.

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“Where Are You with Adolescence and the parent-teen relationship?”

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