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How Much Right Do You Have to Know About Your Adult Child's Decisions

My 19-year-old son dropped out of college and won't tell me what his plans are and I'm torn between respecting his privacy and feeling like I deserve to know since I'm paying for his life.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Financial support creates expectations for transparency that conflict with an adult child's need for autonomy.

Ideas that help explain it
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