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When maternal bonding doesn't happen immediately after birth

My baby is three weeks old and I feel nothing when I look at her and everyone keeps asking if I'm in love yet and I just smile and nod.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The expectation of instant maternal love collides with the reality that attachment can unfold slowly, creating shame around natural variation.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Birth and early bonding?”

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