My best friend keeps canceling plans at the last minute and when I stopped inviting her she accused me of being passive aggressive instead of apologizing for her behavior.
More people experience this than they realize.
People who experience the logical results of their unreliability often reframe others' self-protection as vindictive rather than acknowledging their own pattern.
“Where Are You with Punishment consequences and natural boundaries?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.