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Scenario

When chosen family values conflict with individual requests for secrecy

My chosen family has this rule about always being honest with each other but my chosen sister's girlfriend asked me not to tell her about seeing her ex and I don't know which loyalty matters more.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Competing ethical frameworks within chosen family can create impossible situations where honoring one relationship betrays another.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with LGBTQ+ chosen family tradition?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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