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When chosen family values conflict with individual requests for secrecy

My chosen family has this rule about always being honest with each other but my chosen sister's girlfriend asked me not to tell her about seeing her ex and I don't know which loyalty matters more.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Competing ethical frameworks within chosen family can create impossible situations where honoring one relationship betrays another.

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