My daughter is applying to colleges and I realize I've spent her whole childhood trying to give her everything I didn't have instead of seeing what she actually needs
More people experience this than they realize.
You're discovering that parenting in reaction to your own deprivation may have obscured your ability to attune to your child's unique nature and needs.
“Where Are You with Intergenerational trauma — the legacy you break?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.