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When your child reflects back everything you hate about yourself

My daughter is exactly like I was at her age and I realize I have passed down all my worst traits and I do not know how to forgive myself.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Seeing your own negative patterns repeated in your child can trigger profound guilt about the parts of identity you have transmitted rather than transcended.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parenting and identity — who are you beyond parent??”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.