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When helping an ex sends mixed messages

My ex-husband is struggling financially and asked to borrow money, and part of me wants to help because we have kids together but another part thinks he needs to face consequences for his choices.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Past hurt complicates present compassion, making it unclear whether assistance serves genuine care or unhealthy attachment.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Buddhist merit and the ripple of good action?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.