My ex-husband lets our kids eat whatever they want when they visit him and they come home complaining about my healthy meals and I feel like the mean parent for caring about their nutrition.
More people experience this than they realize.
When co-parents operate from different value systems, children learn to play the contradictions against each parent's insecurities.
“Where Are You with Cultural expectations vs. personal values in parenting?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.