My ex-husband lets our kids stay up until midnight and eat whatever they want at his house and now they tell me I'm the mean parent and ask to live with him full time.
More people experience this than they realize.
Conflicting parental approaches create loyalty conflicts for children and leave the more structured parent feeling like the villain.
“Where Are You with Authoritative vs. authoritarian parenting?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.