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Scenario

When spouses undermine agreed-upon consequences

My husband keeps giving our grown son money behind my back after we agreed to cut him off and now I do not trust either of them and feel like the bad guy.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Secret violations of shared boundaries create double betrayal and force one parent into the role of enforcer while the other remains the rescuer.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Punishment consequences and natural boundaries?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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