My husband keeps giving our grown son money behind my back after we agreed to cut him off and now I do not trust either of them and feel like the bad guy.
More people experience this than they realize.
Secret violations of shared boundaries create double betrayal and force one parent into the role of enforcer while the other remains the rescuer.
“Where Are You with Punishment consequences and natural boundaries?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.