My kids prefer their dad and I feel like I am failing at the one thing I thought would come naturally and define who I am.
More people experience this than they realize.
Children's clear preference for the other parent can devastate the sense of natural parental identity and create deep questions about fundamental adequacy.
“Where Are You with Parenting and identity — who are you beyond parent??”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.