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When grandparent gifts create unhealthy dynamics

My mother-in-law gives my children expensive gifts that come with strings attached and lectures about how they should be grateful and I hate that my kids are learning to associate love with obligation.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Generosity can become a form of control when it carries implicit expectations that transform natural gratitude into performed obligation.

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