My mother was emotionally absent and I've overcompensated by being so involved in my daughter's life that she's 16 and can't make any decisions without calling me first.
More people experience this than they realize.
A parent's efforts to heal from neglect have swung toward enmeshment, inhibiting their child's development of autonomy.
“Where Are You with Trauma-informed parenting?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.