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What to do when you cannot summon happy memories

People keep asking me to share favorite memories of my mother at family gatherings and I realize I cannot think of any good ones and that makes me feel broken.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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The expectation to remember the deceased fondly can shame those whose relationships were complicated or whose grief blocks access to positive recollections.

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