My sister and I are planning our father's funeral and she wants a full Catholic mass because that's how we were raised, but he stopped believing decades ago and told me privately he didn't want that. We're both grieving and both right and I don't know how to honor everyone.
More people experience this than they realize.
Death reveals the fault lines between who we were, who we became, and who we remember each other to be.
“Where Are You with Death and afterlife across all traditions?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.