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When couples disagree about leaving a faith community

My spouse and I disagree about whether to keep going to our church after the pastor made statements we can't stomach, but we've been part of this community for fifteen years and all our closest friendships are there. Every Sunday feels like we're betraying either our values or our relationships.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people must navigate the collision between moral conviction and the deep roots of belonging, when staying and leaving both feel like betrayals.

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