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Why forgiveness feels like betraying yourself

Everyone says forgiveness is the key to freedom but when I think about forgiving my abuser I feel like I'm betraying the part of me that was hurt.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Premature forgiveness can re-traumatize by dismissing legitimate protective anger.

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