My partner grew up wealthy and I didn't, and we're planning our wedding but can't agree on the budget because what feels 'normal' to them feels impossibly extravagant to me, and what feels reasonable to me feels cheap to them. We keep having the same fight where neither of us wants to seem unreasonable but we both feel like the other person doesn't understand what money actually means.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are discovering that their different relationships with money reflect deeper questions about whose values and background get to define their shared future.
“Where Are You with Money and identity — class aspiration and shame?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.