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Scenario

When couples from different class backgrounds can't agree on wedding spending

My partner grew up wealthy and I didn't, and we're planning our wedding but can't agree on the budget because what feels 'normal' to them feels impossibly extravagant to me, and what feels reasonable to me feels cheap to them. We keep having the same fight where neither of us wants to seem unreasonable but we both feel like the other person doesn't understand what money actually means.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are discovering that their different relationships with money reflect deeper questions about whose values and background get to define their shared future.

Your guide for this
Zera
Zera works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Money and identity — class aspiration and shame?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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