My partner makes twice what I make and insists on splitting everything equally because it's 'fair' but I can't afford the lifestyle choices we make together and I feel like I'm either broke or excluded and we can't seem to find a middle ground.
More people experience this than they realize.
Mathematical fairness often conflicts with relational equity when partners have different financial capacities.
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