My partner thinks we should hire housekeeping now that we can afford it, but I feel guilty about paying someone to clean our house when I grew up cleaning other people's houses with my mom. They say I'm making it harder than it needs to be, but I can't shake the feeling that hiring help makes me the kind of person I used to resent.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are confronting how past experiences with class hierarchy affect their comfort with participating in those same hierarchies from a different position.
“Where Are You with Money and identity — class aspiration and shame?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.