My partner thinks we should hire housekeeping now that we can afford it, but I feel guilty about paying someone to clean our house when I grew up cleaning other people's houses with my mom. They say I'm making it harder than it needs to be, but I can't shake the feeling that hiring help makes me the kind of person I used to resent.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are confronting how past experiences with class hierarchy affect their comfort with participating in those same hierarchies from a different position.
“Where Are You with Money and identity — class aspiration and shame?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.