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When family members disagree about financial help due to different privilege levels

My siblings and I are arguing about whether to help our youngest brother with his student loans, and it's really about the fact that some of us worked our way through college and some of us had help from our parents. We all ended up in different places financially but we can't talk about the help some of us got without someone feeling guilty or resentful.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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A family is confronting how unequal support in the past has created different outcomes and obligations in the present.

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“Where Are You with Money and identity — class aspiration and shame?”

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